Blog: Shedding the “Shoulds”
Why do we do it to ourselves? “I really should get my resume together.” “I should find a mentor.” “ I shouldn’t have been so hard on the new hire.” “I should lose weight.”
We burden ourselves with the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts.” We make it worse with shame, denial.
The statement is a declaration of a possibility that you haven’t yet claimed. When you find yourself using the s-word, remember “twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do…” Mark Twain
Whenever you find yourself using the ‘s’ word, ask yourself these questions:
- What do I really want, at least at this stage of my life?
- Am I willing to do what it takes to achieve this goal?
- When I achieve this goal, what will success look and feel like?
If this goal/dream/vision is worth achieving, “throw off the bowlines…explore…dream…discover.” Mark Twain