In work and in life we perceive that we have to pay our dues, that choices are entitlement of which we are not worthy until we have achieved a certain level of income, title, etc. My view is that we always have choices – always. Although the choices may not be desirable, they still remain viable choices. Of course, it takes courage to choose…courage to ask ‘what if.’ Asking what if separates the successful person from the one who isn’t.
I asked myself ‘what if’ in early 2009. I had been an executive recruiter for a leading, privately held, global executive search firm for twelve years. Although I enjoyed executive search, I had a keen interest in the role of talent management and diversity in corporate transformation. I had also begun a book on career management in 2003 that I wanted to finish. My responsibilities to the firm did not allow enough time for me to finish the book and attend media and marketing engagements. But once I asked myself the question, a stream of scenarios came to mind: I could spend more time with my young son, finish my book, open my own consulting and career management firm… I also began to receive “messages” of affirmation from unexpected places that reinforced that my decision was likely the right one. Although it was scary, the possibilities excited me and I soon submitted my resignation. I have not had a moment of regret.
Fear is the opposite of courage. Cast away fear in favor of courage and ask “what if.” What if you did what you really wanted to do? Allow the possibilities to create wings…and choose to fly!